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Sensory overload

A big problem with me is that I have issues with sound.  I have incredible hearing.  I've had my hearing checked and I rate in the exceptional range.  The problem with that is that I hear EVERYTHING.  The second problem is that I cannot handle hearing repetitive sounds.  Pens clicking, shoes tapping, balls bouncing etc.  When things get really bad I cannot handle any sounds.  For example; my dog itching.  The sound of my dog itching drives me out of my mind.  This is a huge issue because my dog has severe allergies and itches about eleven hours a day.  I sleep with ear plugs in even if I am home alone because I can hear every car that passes outside, every tree branch that moves, every mouse that crawls around, EVERY. SINGLE. THING.  I don't get a lot of sleep. Especially living near a freeway.  If my husband taps his hand on the steering wheel in the car I freak out. I actually FREAK OUT.  I get mad.  If my son starts clicking his toy gun over and over and over I totally tense up and feel a break down come on.  If Brandon turns on any electrical gadget I cringe. When people close cabinets and they even slightly slam it, my brain hurts.  Because of that I close cabinets so gently that sometimes they don't even close all the way.  But it is better then hearing the cabinet close.  The sound of Ugg boots dragging around during the winter really really pisses me off.  People need to pick up their feet.  

To sum it up, I have massive sound issues.

So tonight I'm sitting at home in the dark in the silence trying to read.  I've had a long week at work having both kids in the office making noise.  Add in the kid noise to the sound of phones ringing, and the kids TV on, their DS or iPod in the background, people talking, the chickens squawking, boots dragging on the floor, doors opening, wind, and the freeway and come days end I'm just DONE.  I came home tonight and had the kids go downstairs so I could read after doing the dishes. I can still hear their TV and them fighting but I am trying to handle it.  Then the dog started itching.  Right by my ear.  I flipped out.  I got up and gave him Benadryl and sat back down to enjoy the peace.  That is when the damn dog went to find his chew bone.  He found his bone and then laid two feet away from me gnawing and chewing and gnawing and chewing for a good ten minutes.  The sound of a dog chewing on a bone, or licking totally pushes every last button.  I couldn't handle it.  I texted my husband telling him the sound of the dog chewing on his bone was going to actually move me to tears.  My ears started ringing and I could feel actual pain in them.  I finally got up and took away his bone for a while.  I'm sitting here now hyper aware of every little sound with my ears still hurting, my brain tense, my jaw clenched hard and my whole being just rigid in a tense little ball of sound.  

I hate this.

I wish there was a medication for this.  Or some sort of relief.

I wish I couldn't hear everything.

But I can.

It's hard.

Does this happen to anyone else?


Love, Misguided Mommy

posted on Nov. 1, 2012

Comments

Nov. 02 2012
beylit said…
Oh sweetie that sounds awful. My hearing isn't that great. Half the time I have to ask people to repeat themselves. I got the over developed sense of smell. My husband calls it my mutant power. I call it a curse. I know how being able to pick out every individual smell in a room can make me physically ill, I can only imagine how every sound being amplified would drive me a bit batty. Have you tried noise canceling earphones for when you are trying to read or relax or escape? I mean I know you have kids so you need to be able to hear if there is a problem, but it sounds like you need some sort of relief.
Nov. 02 2012
Sarah Lynn said…
Repetitive noises drive me INSANE. Like you, I feel like I hear everything. One time at work my co-worker had bangle bracelets, and I kept commenting on the noise they made before finally she said, "I think I'm just gonna take those off..." because she knew how much repetitive sounds drove me insane. Also we're the upstairs apartment and downstairs they have this surround sound stereo or TV.. and the bass drives me INSANE. We have to have two fans on to block out the sounds (that my husband claims he can't hear, lol), because I can't sound the sound of the bass over and over! I feel your pain. I also had this older guy on the train next to me who kept sighing every few seconds, I was so irritated I had to put on headphones, when I all I really wanted was to read my book after a long day at work!
Nov. 04 2012
Kath Thornton said…
I thought you would be inundated with comments of sympathy. All exclaiming their similar stories of Aural sensitivity that would make me feel somewhat normal. Apparently not. I cannot bear my cat licking her hind quarters. A tap dripping has been known to send me off the radar. Nobody but me can put dishes away as I cannot tolerate the sound. I must leave the house if the lawns are to be mowed. Sometimes I shut myself away in my bedroom when the lounge room telly is just a fraction over my confomt zone. I HEAR EVERYTHING. Sometimes I just want complete and utter silence. Then a fly will buzz. Or a biscuit will crack. Or a fizzy drink will be opened. And I accept that I will never get total silence.
Nov. 04 2012
christy said…
I am not quite as bad off as you, but repetitive noises do bother me. My husband is constantly tapping and drumming on things. He drives me INSANE. My dog also makes me batty. All those licking noises make me want to vomit. I lock her out of my bedroom at night, or she wakes me up with all her scratching and licking and moving around.
Jul. 05 2013
Jessica said…
I know this is an older post, but I was doing a web-search for this issue and came across it. I too find that I am hyper-sensitive - not near as bad as what you have going on, but pretty close! After days filled with noise, I shut down too. Absolute silence reigns in this home! But I am coming to the realization that my son has this too. Hence, I am the hunt for a therapy or something to help him. He hears SO well, that he can't hear what he needs to hear and has been getting into trouble at tae-kwon-do and other places (we homeschool so at least we can address that part here). He thinks I call his name when I've not said a peep. He talks so loud most of the time (to hear himself speak over the sounds he hears?) that we have to constantly tell him we are right here. Yet, I can whisper his name across the house and he comes running. I don't want to use this issue as an excuse for his misbehavior, but I do want to help him find ways to function and perhaps cut out some of the "extra" stuff.... Off to keep looking!
Oct. 20 2013
Shannon said…
I have really been struggling with sensory overload lately. Noise really bothers me. I can deal with it for a while but then I suddenly freak out or feel like im going to lose it and then every little sound irritates and stresses. I long for silence. And I am a single mom who never gets a break. I have a toddler who climbs everything so there's no way I can get away and have a little silence. I also start feeling really exhausted. A period of peace and quiet makes me feel immensely better if I can get it.
Mar. 08 2014
Jessica Madlock said…
I feel your pain!!! I have to have a ton of paperwork done and be ready in in a couple hours to take 1of my 4 children to a 2 hour testing session and the three kids i have living with me now are agessoon to be 4, turned 5 in dec. and turned 6 in feb. I felt myself on overload and still am stopped to google if am moms out tgere besisez me get on sensory overload :,( It's good to know i'm not alone and also not crazy cause i feel this way a lot. I am hearing the water of Ms. Turtle aquarium the heater and all 3 children one of which bangs anything and everthing together the other who is obsessed with sweets continously sneaking in the fridge whi h the seal makes an anoying sound every time he opens it. errrrr!!! And adults it is very hard for them to understand how i am a mother of 4 who has my own version of melt downs making it difficult for others to "get" or desire to get me cause my children aren't typical and have melt downs making me look like a lazy parent when truth is we are wired different and can be a lot of fun. I have been looking to find friends that will accecpt and appreciate me and us for how We are. I certainly can relate.
Mar. 08 2014
Jessica Madlock said…
I feel your pain!!! I have to have a ton of paperwork done and be ready in in a couple hours to take 1of my 4 children to a 2 hour testing session and the three kids i have living with me now are agessoon to be 4, turned 5 in dec. and turned 6 in feb. I felt myself on overload and still am stopped to google if am moms out tgere besisez me get on sensory overload :,( It's good to know i'm not alone and also not crazy cause i feel this way a lot. I am hearing the water of Ms. Turtle aquarium the heater and all 3 children one of which bangs anything and everthing together the other who is obsessed with sweets continously sneaking in the fridge whi h the seal makes an anoying sound every time he opens it. errrrr!!! And adults it is very hard for them to understand how i am a mother of 4 who has my own version of melt downs making it difficult for others to "get" or desire to get me cause my children aren't typical and have melt downs making me look like a lazy parent when truth is we are wired different and can be a lot of fun. I have been looking to find friends that will accecpt and appreciate me and us for how We are. I certainly can relate.
Mar. 08 2014
Jessica Madlock said…
I feel your pain!!! I have to have a ton of paperwork done and be ready in in a couple hours to take 1of my 4 children to a 2 hour testing session and the three kids i have living with me now are agessoon to be 4, turned 5 in dec. and turned 6 in feb. I felt myself on overload and still am stopped to google if am moms out tgere besisez me get on sensory overload :,( It's good to know i'm not alone and also not crazy cause i feel this way a lot. I am hearing the water of Ms. Turtle aquarium the heater and all 3 children one of which bangs anything and everthing together the other who is obsessed with sweets continously sneaking in the fridge whi h the seal makes an anoying sound every time he opens it. errrrr!!! And adults it is very hard for them to understand how i am a mother of 4 who has my own version of melt downs making it difficult for others to "get" or desire to get me cause my children aren't typical and have melt downs making me look like a lazy parent when truth is we are wired different and can be a lot of fun. I have been looking to find friends that will accecpt and appreciate me and us for how We are. I certainly can relate.
Sep. 01 2014
Wendy said…
OMG I have this issue too! I can't believe I'm not alone! <3 I try so hard, but it drives me INSANE when I can hear an animal licking themselves. I have thrown my cat off the bed for performing such a heinous offense right next to my HEAD... several times. I don't throw her hard, don't worry. I love animals more than I love people... I'm so happy someone else goes through this! I mean, I'm not happy for YOU, but... y'know. I'm not alone, and that is awesome!!! <3
Jan. 28 2015
Amber said…
I too struggle with this. Mine is only difficult to control when I'm exhausted and when I'm overwhelmed. I wish I could find a better way to handle it than snapping at those I love.
Apr. 06 2015
monika said…
I hear you. (No pun intended). I. AM. GOING. CRAZY. by the sound my kids make,my partner leaves the house in the morning and he is like a ninja. Well. Not quite, or if he is I would have been a great ninja watch dog. I start to resent my kids and it is so hard add there is nothing I want more than a happy family but I find myself trying to escape more and more.... Ah. I dream about a hammock on an in inhabited island with nothing but the sound of the waves. Nothing else. No flies. No leaves moving in the wind. No birds. Quiet.
Apr. 06 2015
monika said…
I hear you. (No pun intended). I. AM. GOING. CRAZY. by the sound my kids make,my partner leaves the house in the morning and he is like a ninja. Well. Not quite, or if he is I would have been a great ninja watch dog. I start to resent my kids and it is so hard add there is nothing I want more than a happy family but I find myself trying to escape more and more.... Ah. I dream about a hammock on an in inhabited island with nothing but the sound of the waves. Nothing else. No flies. No leaves moving in the wind. No birds. Quiet.

 

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